8 things I have seen time and time again that help people create safe, happy, and healthy relationships.

Curiosity encourages exploration, understanding, and growth between partners. It fosters a sense of closeness and appreciation that strengthens the bond over time. Staying curious is important because people change, their interests change, and their desires change. We are always changing and growing, and if we want to grow together and maintain the connection, then we need to stay curious about those we love. 

It’s not just about finding a safe partner, it’s about being a safe partner and co-creating a safe relationship. We can start this process by…

People often wonder why they aren’t interested in sex anymore, why their sex drive has changed, or why they want different amounts of sex. Often they think there is something wrong, that they have low libido, and they feel shame. The truth is there are many reasons why this could be happening, but a big one is the state of the relationship.

We need to keep communicating, connecting and making space for one another. These aren’t conversations we have once, they are conversations we have again and again as we change and grow. Having these conversations demonstrates that the relationship is important, it’s a way of creating more emotional intimacy and knowing one another more deeply. They are are your baseline when it comes to maintaining connection and navigating the road ahead.  

What are your blocks? How do they show up in your relationships? We all have blocks. Some we are conscious of and others we are totally unconscious of. I think of blocks as opportunities to learn about ourselves, tend to our need, nurture ourselves and grow. 

Having really good sex is a process of co-creation. It’s intentional. Many of us have been fed the idea that sex should just be amazing with the ‘right’ person, but the truth is we all have stuff that can get in the way of being able to be fully present or that leads us to struggle with exploration. 

Having sex you really enjoy involves letting go of those unrealistic expectations and creating a connection that works for you and your partner/s.

It’s about allowing yourself to explore, practicing being present, and learning about one another. 

Self-reflection helps us to look at ourselves, reflect upon our part in issues, and become aware of areas for growth and development. If we cannot or will not reflect, we cannot grow, or take accountability, or improve. This is why I think it’s an absolutely fundamental skill to develop and doing so will improve your relationships. 

Have you filled your cup today? How full your cup is represents how you’re feeling at any given point. It goes up and down day to day, depending on how you’re feeling.

Do you trust yourself? Are you able to rely on yourself and have your own back?

Try seeing challenges in your relationship as opportunities for growth and learning.