Signs you might benefit from therapy
We don’t always realise we need therapy—until life feels a little too heavy, confusing, or lonely to carry alone. You don’t need to hit “rock bottom” to reach out. Sometimes, it’s more subtle. It might look like functioning well on the outside, but feeling stuck or disconnected on the inside.
People often ask me how I support people, so I thought I’d take a moment to explain some of the things that bring people into therapy and the benefits of accessing therapy.
Therapy (especially sex and relationship therapy) can support you to:
Improve your relationship with yourself and your partner
Understand your attachment and how it influences the way you engage in relationships
Learn how to better navigate conflict
Enhance your communication
Understand your triggers and responses so you can be equipped with skills to navigate them then you become activated
Work through and heal from past trauma
Know your wounds, vulnerabilities and what you bring into a relationship
Break old unhelpful dating and relationship patterns
Grieve and process heartbreak
Explore your sexuality and build sexual self confidence
Deepen intimacy with your partner emotionally and sexually
Address sexual challenges and the list goes on and on…
If you’re feeling unsure about whether therapy is something that would be helpful for you, here are some signs that it could be beneficial:
1. You’re tired of repeating the same patterns
Maybe it’s the same type of relationship dynamic, the same conflict with a parent, the same cycle of self-criticism, avoidance, or burnout. If you’ve tried all your usual tools and nothing’s shifting, therapy can help you see the deeper layers and create real change.
2. You struggle to say what you really feel or need
Whether it’s keeping the peace, people pleasing, staying “likeable,” or not wanting to be a burden, many people find it hard to express themselves honestly. In therapy, you get to practise being heard, seen, and understood—without judgment.
3. You feel “too much” or “not enough”
These quiet shame stories often run in the background of our lives. Therapy offers a space to get curious about where they come from—and who you are without them.
4. You’re going through a life transition
Breakups, career changes, becoming a parent, moving cities, loss, or identity shifts… These moments often shake up old wounds and beliefs. Therapy can help you make sense of what’s coming up and move through it with more clarity and support.
5. You’re not sure who you are or what you want anymore
It’s totally normal to reach a point in life where everything that once made sense… doesn’t. If you feel disconnected from your values, purpose, or self—therapy is a great place to start exploring.
6. You’ve experienced trauma, even if it doesn’t “seem that bad”
Not all trauma looks like a headline. Sometimes it’s subtle: childhood emotional neglect, growing up in chaos, a betrayal that left a scar. If your nervous system feels wired for danger or shutdown, therapy can help you begin to feel safe in your own body again.
7. You want more out of life than just ‘coping’
Survival is important—but you deserve more than just getting by. If you’re ready to explore how to thrive, relate more deeply, live more freely, or simply feel more at home in yourself, therapy might be the next right step.
Therapy isn’t just for crises. It’s for self-awareness, growth, healing, and having someone in your corner as you navigate the messy, beautiful human experience. If you’re reading this and wondering whether therapy might help—you don’t need a more valid reason. That wondering itself is enough.
If you'd like to work together, I offer therapy and sexology services to individuals, couples, and folks in all relationship structures—online across Australia and in-person in Sydney CBD.
You’re allowed to ask for help.
You’re allowed to want more.
And you’re welcome here.
