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Are you ready to break your patterns, raise your standards and embody your worth in love?
Join the 3-month group mentoring program
Hi, I’m Lucille…
…and I am a Behavioural Scientist, Psycho-Sexologist and Therapist, turned Mentor. I help people break their dating patterns, raise their standards, and embody self-worth in love.
Let me guess…
You’ve got your life together. You’re smart, self-aware, and yet when it comes to love… that’s where things get messy.
You keep attracting the same type — emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or just not ready. You overgive, overthink, or overstay. You know better, but something deeper keeps pulling you back into the same story.
That’s where this work comes in.
This isn’t about fixing you. You’re not broken. It’s about breaking patterns, raising standards, and reclaiming your agency in love. It’s about dating and relating from self-worth, not survival.
Awareness isn’t enough. It’s time for action.
Here, we do the inner work that changes your outer world. We untangle the unconscious patterns that keep you chasing, proving, or performing for love and teach you how to choose differently. Using relational psychology, neuroscience, attachment science and behavioural science, you’ll learn how to embody self-respect, self-trust, and self-worth in every relationship you enter.
Chosen is my signature Group Mentoring Program and is designed for people like you — strong, self-aware and ready to stop shrinking, stop chasing, and start choosing.
…because I see you, I get you, I was you!
For years, I couldn’t figure out why I kept ending up in the same kinds of relationships. Knowing better… but still doing the same thing.
It wasn’t until I stopped asking “Why do I keep choosing this?” and started asking “How can I change this?” that everything began to shift.
That’s actually how I became a relationship therapist. I didn’t study relationships just to help others — I did it to help myself! I wanted to understand why smart, capable, self-aware people like us get stuck in cycles that don’t serve us, and how to finally break them.
Through studying behavioural science, psychotherapy, relationship therapy, and psychosexual therapy, I learned that patterns aren’t who we are — they’re how we learned to survive. And once we understand them, we can change them.
Today, I’ve stepped away from therapy so I can make a bigger impact. I’ve created an individual and group mentoring program to bring together everything I’ve learned — personally and professionally — to a space where I can help people like you stop repeating old patterns, stop self-abandoning, stop chasing, raise their standards and start choosing love that honours their worth.
Everything I share comes from both sides of the couch — the therapist and the human because I’ve been there… stuck, frustrated, and wondering if real change is even possible.
My work is for those who have already done the work but still feel stuck. You’ve done the therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts — you don’t need more of the same. What you need are the tools, structure, and support to finally change your patterns.
You know you deserve better, you know you should choose better… and yet somehow you keep chasing, settling, or second-guessing yourself. You find yourself attracted to the same type of person, replaying the same scenario — and the worst part? You see it, you know it, and you still do it!
Why I do what I do…
This is legit.
This isn’t another generic downloadable course or advice from some TikTok dating guru (no shade — I actually love that content, but that’s NOT what this is!).
If you want real, science-backed tools from someone who has spent over a decade studying relationships, human behaviour, and sexuality, has four university degrees in this field, and has actually lived and applied this work herself, then this program is for you.
Chosen combines evidence-based strategies, somatic and relational insight, and hands-on mentorship to help you finally understand your patterns, reclaim your boundaries, and make confident choices in love.
It will support you to stop abandoning, to stop obsessing about people who are no good for you and to start honouring yourself and make decisions based on what you actually want, and to confidently walk away from what you don’t.
This work is for anyone who has done the inner work, but still finds themselves shrinking, chasing, or settling in love.
We explore the deep, often invisible drivers behind relational self-sabotage: the parts of you that equate love with proving, peace with boredom, and vulnerability with risk. Together, we’ll unravel the unconscious contracts you’ve made in love — and rewrite them from sovereignty, not scarcity.
Because the next level of intimacy won’t come from more insight. It comes from embodiment.
Together, let’s break your dating patterns, redefine what you accept, expect, and attract, and embody self-worth in love.
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3-Month Group Mentoring Program
What the program includes:
A 3-month deep-dive into the patterns shaping your love life.
✦ Group Sessions: Bi-Weekly 2-Hour Group Mentoring Session (6 total sessions over 3 months)
✦ Individual Mentoring: One 90-minute 1:1 session with me per month
✦ Pre-Work Video: A pre-recorded video for every module is released on Fridays to prepare for the group mentoring call and is downloadable and yours to keep.
✦ Small Groups: Maximum 8 members per group
✦ Time Options: PST & EST session times available
Investment: $4,999 USD in full or by 3 monthly payments.
Next Enrollment Dates:
✦ Pacific Time - Biweekly on Tuesdays starting 20th January 2026 from 6pm - 8pm
✦ Eastern Time - Biweekly on Wednesdays starting 21st January 2026 from 6pm - 8pm
This is for anyone who…
Is done overfunctioning in relationships.
Is done accepting the bare minimum and obsessing over people you don’t even like that much.
Is ready to take full responsibility for their patterns without blaming themselves or anyone else, and do the work to create change.
Want to stop overthinking, overfunctioning, and attracting unavailable partners.
Want to show up fully, and finally let love in — without losing themselves.
Is done with theory and ready for practical, real-world shifts that actually work
More specifically, this is for anyone who:
Is dating (or open to dating) and keeps finding themselves in the same patterns. Same type, same dynamic, same outcome. You’re done replaying the cycle and ready to do the deeper work to change it.
Is in the early stages of a relationship (around 3–6 months in) and can feel old patterns creeping back in — the overthinking, people-pleasing, shrinking, or losing yourself — and you want to stay grounded, self-led, and connected to your truth as things deepen.
You’re someone who has got your shit figured out everywhere but in love. You’re smart, self-aware, and still stuck in cycles of self-abandonment, “pick-me energy,” or low standards — ready to finally embody self-worth in how you date.
You want love that feels mutual, steady, and real — without losing yourself in the process.
🏳️🌈 Just a heads up: This work is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. I’m Queer, and Queer folk are fully welcome here.
When You Stop Chasing and Start Choosing:
You stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else close.
You know your worth — and stop settling for less.
You build boundaries you actually honour.
You date with clarity, confidence, and self-respect.
You attract partners who can meet you emotionally, not drain you.
You finally feel as confident in love as you do in other areas of your life.
What you’ll get
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12 Transformational Modules
Each week you’ll receive a video lesson (released on Fridays) that dives into the psychology, neuroscience, and relational dynamics behind your patterns — so you arrive to each session informed and ready to go deeper. -
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1 × 90-Minute Private Mentoring Session Each Month
Personalised guidance to help you integrate what you’re learning into your real-life dating and relational experiences. -
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Small, Intimate Group of Up to 8 Members
An intentionally curated community of like-minded people who are ready to grow, hold each other accountable, and cheer one another on. -
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A Safe Space for Growth
You’ll be supported, challenged, and guided by someone who’s been on both sides of the couch — both a therapist and a human who has learned first-hand how to break patterns and create safe and healthy love. -
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Powerful Implementation Tools
Each module comes with everything you need to not just understand what’s happening and why, but to create tangible change and to help you actually live what you’re learning.
an introduction to chosen
What’s inside…
Module 9
Capacity
Learning to tolerate the discomfort of doing things differently
Module 11
Integration
Turning awareness into embodied change
Module 12
Implementation
Taking aligned action that lasts
Module 8
Reality Check
Breaking the fantasy and letting go of denial & emotional projection
Module 7
Boundaries & Standards
Knowing your line and keeping it
Module 6
Ditch the “Pick Me” Energy
Choosing from worth, not fear or scaricty
Module 5
Worthiness
Building self-trust and confidence
Module 10
Growing Pains
Navigating the discomfort of the early stages and what to do when old patterns pop up
Module 2
Your Wounds
Understanding and healing them yourself
Module 1
Your Patterns
Where they come from and how they play out
Module 4
Your Protectors
How the people-pleasing, codependency & coping strategies that once protected you, now betray you
Module 3
The Brain Behind It
The neuroscience, behaviour science and attachment science of why you get stuck
Why Group Mentoring Works - Power in numbers 💥
There’s something transformative about seeing your patterns reflected in others and being held accountable by people who get it. In the group, you’ll:
Connect with others facing the same dating struggles
Receive encouragement and accountability to take real action
Gain momentum and clarity as you implement each week’s insights
Feel supported, seen, and challenged in the right way
✨ By the end of our 3 months together, you’ll have:
Clarity on your dating patterns and why they repeat
Confidence to stop chasing and start choosing
Emotional tools to self-regulate and stay grounded while dating
Boundaries to actually honour yourself
A deep sense of worthiness and self-respect in love
Start Today
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Join the group
Are you ready?
Investment: $4,999 USD
You can pay in full or choose a monthly payment plan. The payment plan is 3 payments charged on the 1st of each month you’re enrolled in the program.
This number isn’t random — 4999 is a number of sacred endings. Not loss, but liberation.
A chapter of your love story is ending.
You’re stepping into a new era of clarity, confidence, and self-respect.
Interested but on the fence?
Want to talk about whether the group is the right fit for you before you commit?
Book a discovery call with me and let’s chat!
My Promise
In this program, you’ll get the tools, structure, and support to finally stop repeating the same patterns in dating, stop settling for less, and start choosing relationships that actually work for you. I will help you get clear on what you want so you can walk away from what you don’t.
Are you ready?
The Application
Apply to join the program by completing the application form below, and I will be in touch with you ASAP.
Please note spaces are strictly limited.
Once you submit the form, I will reach out to you via email within 48 hours.
✺ Frequently asked questions ✺
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Group sizes may vary; however, they will never exceed 8 people per group. You are with the same people for the 3-month program.
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The Chosen group mentoring program is 3 3-month deep-dive into transforming how you show up in love. You’ll get:
✦ Group Sessions: Bi-Weekly 2-Hour Group Mentoring Session (6 total sessions over 3 months)
✦ Individual Mentoring: One 90-minute 1:1 session with me per month
✦ Pre-Work Video: A pre-recorded video for every module is released on Fridays to prepare for the group mentoring call and is downloadable and yours to keep. -
This program is designed to fit into a busy life. You can do all the pre-recorded learning at your own pace whenever it suits you. The mentoring sessions do require your presence as they are live. The commitment is 2 hours every second week. Individual mentoring is 90 minutes once per month, organised around your schedule.
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Chosen is for people who have got their life together — everywhere but love. You may notice repeating patterns, “pick-me” energy, or low standards. If you’re ready to stop shrinking, stop chasing, and start choosing, this program is for you.
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If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns, raise your standards, and embody your self-worth in love — and you’re willing to do the inner work — this program is for you. The application process helps ensure we’re a great fit.
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Absolutely. Whether you’re dating, open to dating, or in the early stages of a relationship, this program will give you tools to stay grounded, self-led, and aligned with your worth.
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You’ll leave with clarity on your patterns, boundaries you can confidently uphold, and the ability to choose partners and relationships that match your worth. Many participants report feeling more self-trust, less “pick-me” energy, and a deeper sense of empowerment in love.
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Therapy helps you process the past, heal wounds, and understand why patterns exist. Mentoring, like this program, gives you actionable guidance, tools, and strategies to change how you show up in real life — so you can break cycles, raise standards, and create the love you actually want.
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It’s a small, intimate group program with live coaching calls and a supportive, private community. You’ll have access to guidance from me and the group, which creates accountability, reflection, and connection with like-minded people.
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This program requires full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before enrolling to ensure it’s the right fit for you.
This is not therapy.
This is a program for women who see their patterns and are ready to finally BREAK them.
Are you ready?
Let’s do this together!
This program requires full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before enrolling to ensure it’s the right fit for you.