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1:1 mentoring for anyone ready to break their dating patterns and redefine what they accept, expect and attract in love.
What Brings You Here?
If you’re here, I’m guessing something I shared on socials made you stop scrolling and think, “Wait… that’s me.”
You’ve got your life on track. You’re smart, driven, and capable. And yet… your love life? A totally different story. The same patterns keep showing up: unavailable partners, accepting the bare minimum, losing yourself, or settling for less than you deserve.
You’re tired. Tired of over-giving, people-pleasing, overthinking, and wondering why it always ends the same way. You’ve done the inner work, read the books, listened to the podcasts… and still, nothing changes.
That’s where I come in. With four university degrees and over a decade of clinical and lived experience, I take a no-BS, science-backed approach to breaking patterns in love. I help you see the patterns that have been running the show and give you the tools to finally break them.
This isn’t about quick fixes or feel-good advice. It’s about going deep: understanding your relational habits, reclaiming your power, and learning to choose differently—rooted in self-respect, self-worth, and authenticity.
This work is for anyone ready to stop repeating the same dating patterns, raise their standards, and start attracting love that reflects their worth.
Ready to stop chasing and start choosing?
✨ Sound familiar? You might say things like…
“I’ve done so much personal work — I should have this figured out by now.”
“I’m always the strong one. The reliable one. The one who holds it all together for everyone else.”
“I don’t need a relationship… but I want one. I’m tired of doing it all alone.”
“I’m independent to a fault.”
“People say I’m intimidating — but I’m actually really soft underneath.”
You’re smart, self-aware, articulate… and exhausted! You’ve got your shit together, which makes it all the more frustrating that you just can’t seem to figure out your love life!
✨ Or maybe you sound like this…
“Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?”
“Why do I lose interest when someone actually shows up for me?”
“Why do I shut down when things get real?”
“How do I let someone in without feeling like I’m losing myself?”
“I’ve read all the books, listened to all the podcasts and done therapy — why isn’t it changing anything?”
You’re not looking for a quick fix or some fluff about “just being yourself.” You’re ready to dig in, get real, and finally stop repeating the same patterns.
This is for anyone who…
Is done overfunctioning in relationships.
Is done accepting the bare minimum and obsessing over people you don’t even like that much.
Is ready to take full responsibility for their patterns without blaming themselves or anyone else, and do the work to create change.
Wants to stop overthinking, overfunctioning, and attracting unavailable partners.
Wants to show up fully, and finally let love in — without losing themselves.
Is done with self-analysis and ready for practical, real-world shifts that actually work.
More specifically, this is for anyone who:
Is dating (or open to dating) and keeps finding themselves in the same patterns. Same type, same dynamic, same outcome. You’re done replaying the cycle and ready to do the deeper work to change it.
Is in the early stages of a relationship (around 3–6 months in) and can feel old patterns creeping back in — the overthinking, people-pleasing, shrinking, or losing yourself — and you want to stay grounded, self-led, and connected to your truth as things deepen.
You’re someone who has got your shit figured out everywhere but in love. You’re smart, self-aware, and still stuck in cycles of self-abandonment, “pick-me energy,” or low standards — ready to finally embody self-worth in how you date.
You want love that feels mutual, steady, and real — without losing yourself in the process.
🏳️🌈 Just a heads up: This work is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. I’m Queer, and Queer folk are fully welcome here.
A little about me…
…I’m a Therapist tuned Mentor, Psycho-Sexologist, Behavioural Scientist, Educator, and Author based in Sydney, with an all-consuming fascination for love, sex, dating, and relationships—so much so that I wrote a book about it: All In, published by Penguin Random House Australia.
I’ve spent years diving deep into the science and psychology of human connection, earning a Master of Psychosexual Therapy, Graduate Degrees in Counselling and Public Health, and a Bachelor of Behavioural Science. Along the way, I trained in Schema Therapy, Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Imago and somatic approaches…just to name a few. All of it shaped how I understand the patterns, blocks, and habits that keep people stuck in love.
I’m obsessed with psychoeducation because I want to give people the tools, insights, and perspectives I wish I’d had before I became a therapist. I share these freely on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok—because understanding yourself, your patterns, and your choices shouldn’t be reserved for therapy sessions alone.
These days, I have taken a step back from therapy and focus solely on my individual and group mentorship programs. Together, we uncover what’s been running the show in your dating life, break the patterns holding you back, and step into the kind of self-respect, clarity, and choice that transforms how you show up in love. This work is hands-on, practical, and for those ready to stop settling, stop chasing, and start choosing themselves.
Clarity on why your patterns keep repeating and how to break them.
Tools to navigate dating without overthinking, overgiving or self-abandoning.
Support to let love in while honouring and respecting yourself.
Here’s What You’ll Get
The Details
Mentoring with me is a focused, results-driven space to finally break the patterns keeping your dating life stuck. We tackle the habits, blocks, and unconscious loops that keep showing up—so you can stop attracting unavailable partners, overthinking, overgiving, settling for the bare minimum and start showing up in love with confidence, clarity and worth.
We work with your mind, emotions, behaviours, and body to create real, embodied breakthroughs and actionable strategies that stick. Think of it as a fast-track to understanding your patterns, reclaiming your agency, and finally choosing differently.
Details:
Format: One-off 90-minute session
Investment: $333 USD
Approach: Mentoring
Available: Online Worldwide via Zoom
This is for the moments you’re ready to go deep, take meaningful action, and step into a love life that actually matches the rest of your amazing life.
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Ready to get started? Book your mentoring session and then complete the form below.
Mentoring sessions are 90-minutes and cost $333 USD.
Tell Me More…
Complete the form below after you book and pay for your session.
Sessions are 90-minutes and cost $333 USD.
You will receive a Zoom link in your booking confirmation. I will then send you a mentoring agreement, which needs to be completed before the session.
Not sure if it’s the right fit for you? Reach out to me directly at hello@lucilleshackleton.com
What each session involves:
What to expect during your 90-minute mentoring session
Each session is a space to pause, gain clarity, and create movement in your dating life. It’s a chance to look honestly at the patterns that have been running the show—what’s holding you back, what keeps repeating, and what’s ready to shift.
Every session is guided by where you are and what’s alive for you in the moment. While each session is unique, we work through three core areas:
1. Setting the Intention — What Do You Want From The Session?
We start by grounding into your intention. What’s the one thing that, if explored or understood today, would make a real difference in your dating life? What do you most want to walk away with?
This step sets the tone, giving our time focus and direction. You’ll leave this part with:
A clear sense of your goal for the session
Alignment on where to focus your attention
A grounded, intentional start
2. Exploring the Patterns Keeping You Stuck
Next, we slow down and look at the stories, beliefs, and habits that have been quietly shaping your choices in love. We explore the patterns you keep repeating—without judgment, just awareness—so you can start to see what’s actually running the show in your dating life.
Here, you might discover:
The patterns that are keeping you stuck and why you keep engaging in them
Old stories or beliefs influencing your decisions
How your attachment style or coping strategies are showing up
Clarity on what’s yours to keep, and what’s ready to release
3. Refocusing and Moving Forward
With new clarity comes action. In this final part, we gather insights, listen to what feels true, and map out small, practical steps to start showing up differently in your dating life. This is about movement you can actually take, rooted in self-respect, confidence, self-worth and alignment with who you are becoming.
You’ll leave this part with:
Renewed focus and clarity
Practical, grounded next steps
Confidence in your own direction and choices
Mentoring sessions are for those ready to break their dating patterns and redefine what they accept, expect and attract in love. For those ready to embody self-respect, self-trust, and self-worth in dating.
Why Mentoring?
If you’ve tried therapy, coaching, or self-help strategies and still feel stuck in your dating life, relationships, or personal growth, mentoring might be the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for.
Focused. Each session is designed with intention. We start by clarifying what you most want to get out of our time together—your goal, challenge, or desired shift—and we keep our work laser-focused on that. No fluff, no distractions. Just clarity, insight, and action.
Strategic. We dig into the patterns, beliefs, and habits that have been quietly running the show in your dating life and relationships. By understanding what’s really holding you back, we can design strategies that actually work—practical steps that move you toward the love, connection, and self-respect you want.
Embodied & Practical. This isn’t just about thinking differently—it’s about feeling, practising, and showing up differently. We combine reflection, somatic awareness, and practical exercises so that insights translate into action. You leave the session with tools you can use immediately to break old patterns and start stepping into new ways of relating and choosing.
Mentoring is a deep, one-on-one space to explore the “why” behind your patterns—your relational history, unconscious habits, and emotional blocks—and move toward the “how”: actionable, embodied, and real change.
You don’t need to prepare, other than bringing your goal or focus. We’ll start where you are, go deep into what’s really running the show, and finish with a clear roadmap to help you create measurable shifts in your dating life, relationships, and self-expression.
This is integrative, transformational work. It’s practical, real, and it creates real change.
My Approach
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Depth-Oriented
This approach honours the parts of you that operate beneath conscious awareness—the patterns, beliefs, and habits that have quietly been shaping your dating life. By exploring your inner world—the stories you tell yourself, the defences you’ve built, and the behaviours that show up in relationships—you begin to see what’s been running the show. Bringing awareness to these hidden layers gives you the power to shift them, creating space to attract people who truly fit your life, build deeper intimacy, and show up in love with authenticity, worth and confidence.
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Goal Oriented
This approach is about getting crystal clear on what you truly want in love and creating relationships that reflect your worth. It’s for those who are done settling, people-pleasing, and repeating patterns that leave them frustrated or heartbroken. Together, we’ll examine your dating habits and patterns: which ones are serving you, and which ones are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn to set boundaries, raise your standards, and embody self-respect, self-trust, and confidence in your dating life. Whether in individual sessions or group mentoring, you’ll gain the clarity, tools, and support to stop chasing, start choosing, and finally attract relationships that match your life, your values, and your worth.
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Somatic
Your body holds the stories your mind can’t always reach. By tuning into sensations, breath, and tension, we learn how to calm your nervous system, create safety, and release the blocks that keep you repeating old patterns in dating and relationships. This somatic awareness supports you to step out of old relational habits, show up more fully, and experience love in a way that feels embodied, grounded, and safe.
FAQs
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This group program is specifically for those who are done chasing, people-pleasing, and settling for the bare minimum in love. Chosen is a hands-on, science-backed group mentoring program where you get the tools, structure, and support to understand your patterns finally — so you can stop showing up the same way, stop chasing people who aren’t right for you, and start confidently choosing the relationships that truly make sense for your life. All sessions are via Zoom in English.
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This is a one-on-one, transformational approach designed for people ready to step fully into themselves, grow personally, and enhance their relationships. Each session provides a deep, focused space to explore and shift the patterns, habits, beliefs, and emotional blocks that have been holding you back.
Each session is 90-minutes and is held online via Zoom. There is no fixed number of sessions you need to book or engage in. Have one, or more it’s totally guided by you.
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While therapy focuses on healing past wounds, processing trauma, and resolving psychological challenges, this mentorship is forward-focused and growth-oriented. It’s designed to help you understand your patterns, gain clarity, and take intentional action in your life and relationships.
Unlike traditional therapy, which often revolves around exploring past experiences, the mentorship is practical, goal-driven, and transformational, combining self-discovery, somatic work, mindset work, and actionable strategies to create lasting change.
This is specifically for people who have done therapy, understand their patterns but still just cannot seem to shift them. They get it on an intellectual level, but can’t seem to get the change they really want. That was me, and that is why I have created this offering.
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‘All In’ is now available in print, ebook, and audio. To find out where you can get your hands (or ears) on a copy, check out the Penguin Random House website here.
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I am no longer offering therapy. The only way to work with me directly is through my group mentoring program or to book a 1-1 mentoring session.
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Yes. For the group mentoring program, you have the option to pay in full, or to pay in 3 instalments.
I do not offer payment plans for one-off mentoring sessions.
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All services require full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before enrolling in the group mentoring program or purchasing a 1-1 session to ensure it’s the right fit for you.
Please note* I have a 48 hour cancellation policy.
This is not therapy.
These sessions are for those who are truly ready to see their patterns and do the work to finally break them.
Have Questions?
Not sure if it’s right for you? Reach out to me directly at hello@lucilleshackleton.com
These sessions require full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before booking a session to ensure it’s the right fit for you.