What to expect in sex therapy
If you’ve never seen a sex therapist before, or are curious about accessing a sexology session this post is for you. To start, it’s totally normal to feel unsure—or even a little nervous—about and be curious about what to expect. Most people weren’t taught how to talk openly about sex, let alone bring it into a therapy room.
What Happens in Sex Therapy?
1. We Talk (Yes, Just Talk!)
Sex therapy is a talk-based modality where we explore what’s happening in your erotic, relational, and emotional life.
2. We Explore the Context
We delve into what’s really happening and where it comes from. We look at:
Attachment dynamics
Stress, hormones, and nervous system regulation
Body image, trauma, and shame
Relational and cultural scripts
What turns you on and what shuts you down
3. We Deconstruct Sexual Myths & Scripts
Many people come in thinking they’re “broken” because they don’t match what society says sex should be. We unpack those assumptions and build a more affirming, inclusive, and empowering framework that honours your real experiences.
4. We Rebuild Your Erotic Self
Sex therapy can help you:
Understand and express your desires
Work through performance anxiety or shame
Heal from sexual trauma
Reconnect with your body and pleasure
Navigate kink, polyamory, or gender exploration
Strengthen intimacy in your relationship(s)
This is a space of inclusion, curiosity, and care.
So, what does that look like in action?
1. We create a safe, non-judgmental space
You don’t have to filter yourself. As a Clinical Sexologist, I’m here to hold space for the real, vulnerable, and sometimes messy parts of sex, sexuality and relationships. Whether you’re navigating identity, intimacy, body image, performance anxiety, or trauma—your story is welcome and I’m here to support you.
2. We talk about sex (in a way that’s empowering)
Yes, we talk about sex! But we do it at your pace, with care and consent. Together we explore what’s going on—emotionally, physically, relationally—and what it means for you. We might map your sexual history, unpack sexual scripts and beliefs, or explore what's getting in the way of the connection and pleasure you want.
3. We work holistically
Sexual wellbeing is deeply interconnected with mental health, nervous system regulation, relational patterns, and body awareness. I often weave in psychoeducation, somatic tools, and mindfulness-based practices so that this work lands not just cognitively, but in the body.
4. We honour your unique expression
There’s no “normal” in sex therapy. Whether you’re vanilla or kinky, asexual or polyamorous, cis, trans, queer, or questioning—this space is inclusive and affirming. My role is not to pathologise, but to support your version of sexual wellness and autonomy.
Sex therapy is for anyone and everyone. It’s not just for when things are feeling stuck or like they’re not working. It’s also for those wanting deeper intimacy, more aliveness, or to reclaim their relationship to pleasure and power. It’s about curiosity, safety, and connection. Whether you’re dealing with desire differences, the impacts of trauma, sexual pain, shame, or just wanting to feel more in tune with your body and your pleasure, you can bring it here.
If this work calls to you, I offer sex therapy online across Australia and in-person in Sydney CBD.
I hope this helps.
Lucille
