We become a safer partner when we...

It’s not just about finding a safe partner, it’s about being a safe partner and co-creating a safe relationship. We can start this process by…

1. Creating the space...

Creating a space where your partner feels they can share their thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of criticism or judgment helps to create emotional safety.

2. Knowing ourselves...

Knowing yourself means learning how your wounds show up and how they influence your reactions and behavior in relationship. By understanding your emotional triggers and how they affect you, you can avoid projecting unresolved issues onto your partner.

3. Speaking openly…

Being truthful in your words and actions creates trust, and trust is the foundation of safety. It’s built by being respectful, reliable, and consistent.

4. Checking in...

Regularly checking in with one another and asking about how the relationship feels shows you are willing to have open, honest, and supportive conversations. It also allows you to make changes and adjustments when needed.

5. Encouraging autonomy...

A healthy relationship allows for individual autonomy, growth, and independence. When you are supportive of your partner having their own life, being their own person, and you respect their individuality, you are honouring them and the things important to them.

6. Expressing love...

Expressing love and showing affection regularly through small gestures, kind words, and physical closeness creates a sense of emotional warmth and security.

7. Taking responsibility...

Taking responsibility for your actions when you’ve hurt your partner and apologising sincerely demonstrates that the relationship is important and shows a willingness to improve.

Doing these things can help us to feel safer, more secure, and connected. It also helps others to feel safer in connection with us.

Love,

Lucille