Want sex with your partner to feel more intimate? Try…

Having really good sex is a process of co-creation.

It’s intentional. Many of us have been fed the idea that sex should just be amazing with the ‘right’ person, but the truth is we all have stuff that can get in the way of being able to be fully present or that leads us to struggle with exploration.  Having sex you really enjoy involves letting go of those unrealistic expectations and creating a connection that works for you and your partner/s. It’s about allowing yourself to explore, practicing being present, and learning about one another. 

Are you craving some closeness, connection, and a deeper level of intimacy? Here are some things to try:

Practicing presence.

A big part of pleasure is presence, which many people struggle with. Being present means being here, in the moment, in your body, and really with your partner. Being fully present with one another helps you feel more close, connected, and intimate.

Slowing down.

Over time, sex can become monotonous and focused on simply getting to an orgasm. Try slowing things down, focusing on pleasure, and just being with one another with no end goal in mind.

Learning them.

Take the time to really learn their body, their likes and dislikes. Explore everything that turns them on and find out how they like to be touched.

Staying curious.

That means being open to the fact that what you/they like may change. It means continuing to explore, being curious, and trying new things together.

Creating safety.

Feeling safe, secure, and connected helps us to be more present and experience deeper levels of sexual intimacy. This means we need to work on resolving issues within the relationship and emotionally repairing so we can return to feelings of closeness and connection.

The experience of sexual intimacy is something you create together. Great sex is created by learning one another, being curious and exploring, slowing down and focusing on pleasure, and being present in your intimate moments. It’s about being intentional and creating a space where you feel safe to explore, express yourself, and play.

I hope this information helps! Enjoy :)

With love,

Lucille