5 conversations we need to keep having in our romantic relationships.

We need to keep communicating, connecting, and making space for one another. These aren’t conversations we have once, they are conversations we have again and again as we change and grow.

So, what conversations do we need to keep having?

1. How we feel...

Sharing how you feel lets your partner know what is going on for you, what is happening in your internal world and facilitates connection.

2. What we need...

Sharing what you need helps your partner show up for you and gives them a chance at meeting those needs.

3. What is bothering us...

This stops things from festering below the surface. Communicating what’s bothering you helps you work things out, navigate challenges, and reconnect.

4. What we appreciate...

This one is essential. Expressing what you’re grateful for builds what the Gottman Institute calls a ‘culture of appreciation’ which influences the relationship environment.

5. Our dreams and goals...

Our dreams and goals for our individual lives and the relationship can change as we change, learn, and grow. This is why we need to keep exploring what our dreams and goals are, and how we can work toward achieving them.

Having these conversations demonstrates that the relationship is important; it’s a way of creating more emotional intimacy and knowing one another more deeply. They are your baseline when it comes to maintaining connection and navigating the road ahead. 

Love,

Lucille