Break your patterns. Raise your standards. Embody your worth.
Hi, I’m Lucille
Therapist Turned Mentor | Behavioural Scientist | Psycho-Sexologist | Educator | Author
Welcome!
If you’ve found yourself here, I’m guessing something I shared on socials resonated — maybe it even made you pause and think, “Yes… that’s me.”
You’ve got your life together. You’re smart, ambitious, and capable. In every other area, you tick the boxes. And yet… your dating life? Not so much. You keep attracting the wrong people, investing in people who are emotionally unavailable, or settling for less than you know you deserve.
You’re exhausted from people-pleasing, over-giving, getting breadcrumbed, and constantly frustrated by experiencing the same patterns in love. You’ve done therapy, read books, listened to podcasts… and yet it keeps happening.
That’s where I come in. With four university degrees and over a decade of clinical and lived experience, I take a no-BS approach grounded in neuroscience, attachment theory, and behavioural science. I help you see your patterns clearly — and finally break them.
This isn’t about quick fixes, motivational talks, or “just be yourself” advice. It’s about understanding your relational habits on a deep, practical level, reclaiming your agency, and learning to choose differently — from self-respect, self-worth, and authenticity.
This work is for anyone ready to finally break their dating patterns and redefine what they accept, expect, and attract in love.
Are you in?
How to work with me
chosen
Group Mentoring Program
If you are done chasing, people-pleasing, and settling for the bare minimum in love, then this program is for you. Chosen is a hands-on, science-backed group mentoring program where you get the tools, structure, and support to understand your patterns — so you can stop showing up the same way, stop chasing people who aren’t right for you, and start confidently choosing the relationships that truly make sense for your life.
mentoring sessions
90-Minute 1-1 Sessions. Worldwide.
These sessions are for anyone ready to break their dating patterns and redefine what they accept, expect and attract in love. If you’re ready to stop settling and start choosing differently — with guidance, clarity, and tools that actually work, then this is for you. 1-1 sessions are a supportive space to uncover the patterns, blocks, and habits that have been keeping you stuck, and to finally break them.
more offerings
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‘All In’ is an inclusive and empowering guide for navigating the intricacies of modern romance. Whether you’re looking to rejuvenate an existing relationship or embark on a new journey towards meaningful connection, All In serves as your modern-day compass, offering practical wisdom and heartfelt insights to help you cultivate the love and intimacy you truly desire.
‘All In’ is now available in print, ebook, and audio across Australia and New Zealand. To find out where you can get your hands (or ears) on a copy, check out the Penguin Random House website here.
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I provide free psychoeducation material online via Instagram and Tik Tok @lucille.shackleton, and YouTube @LoveSkillsWithLucille
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I am no longer offering therapy. The only way to work with me is through my group program or mentoring service.
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If you are interested in having me on your podcast, speaking at an event, or providing comments for media, please reach out to me directly via email hello@lucilleshackleton.com
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Are you a therapist or coach who wants to grow your online presence, create impactful content, and build a thriving private practice? I offer mentoring that helps you show up confidently online, engage your audience, share educational material that truly resonates, and develop a private practice you love.
Sessions are 45 minutes, online via Zoom, and cost $299 USD. Interested? Reach out to me directly via hello@lucilleshackleton.com to get started.
…because I see you, I get you, I was you!
For years, I couldn’t figure out why I kept ending up in the same kinds of relationships. Knowing better… but still doing the same thing.
It wasn’t until I stopped asking “Why do I keep choosing this?” and started asking “How can I change this?” that everything began to shift.
That’s actually how I became a relationship therapist. I didn’t study relationships just to help others — I did it to help myself! I wanted to understand why smart, capable, self-aware people like us get stuck in cycles that don’t serve us, and how to finally break them.
Through studying behavioural science, psychotherapy, relationship therapy, and psychosexual therapy, I learned that patterns aren’t who we are — they’re how we learned to survive. And once we understand them, we can change them.
Today, I’ve stepped away from therapy so I can make a bigger impact. I’ve created an individual and group mentoring program to bring together everything I’ve learned — personally and professionally — to a space where I can help people like you stop repeating old patterns, stop self-abandoning, stop chasing, raise their standards and start choosing love that honours their worth.
Everything I share comes from both sides of the couch — the therapist and the human because I’ve been there… stuck, frustrated, and wondering if real change is even possible.
My work is for those who have already done the work but still feel stuck. You’ve done the therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts — you don’t need more of the same. What you need are the tools, structure, and support to finally change your patterns.
You know you deserve better, you know you should choose better… and yet somehow you keep chasing, settling, or second-guessing yourself. You find yourself attracted to the same type of person, replaying the same scenario — and the worst part? You see it, you know it, and you still do it!
Why I do what I do…
My Approach
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Depth-Oriented
This approach honours the parts of you that operate beneath conscious awareness—the patterns, beliefs, and habits that have quietly been shaping your dating life. By exploring your inner world—the stories you tell yourself, the defences you’ve built, and the behaviours that show up in relationships—you begin to see what’s been running the show. Bringing awareness to these hidden layers gives you the power to shift them, creating space to attract people who truly fit your life, build deeper intimacy, and show up in love with authenticity, worth and confidence.
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Goal Oriented
This approach is about getting crystal clear on what you truly want in love and creating relationships that reflect your worth. It’s for those who are done settling, people-pleasing, and repeating patterns that leave them frustrated or heartbroken. Together, we’ll examine your dating habits and patterns: which ones are serving you, and which ones are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn to set boundaries, raise your standards, and embody self-respect, self-trust, and confidence in your dating life. Whether in individual sessions or group mentoring, you’ll gain the clarity, tools, and support to stop chasing, start choosing, and finally attract relationships that match your life, your values, and your worth.
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Somatic
Your body holds the stories your mind can’t always reach. By tuning into sensations, breath, and tension, we learn how to calm your nervous system, create safety, and release the blocks that keep you repeating old patterns in dating and relationships. This somatic awareness supports you to step out of old relational habits, show up more fully, and experience love in a way that feels embodied, grounded, and safe.
A little about me…
…I’m a Therapist tuned Mentor, Psycho-Sexologist, Behavioural Scientist, Educator, and Author based in Sydney, with an all-consuming fascination for love, sex, dating, and relationships—so much so that I wrote a book about it: All In, published by Penguin Random House Australia.
I’ve spent years diving deep into the science and psychology of human connection, earning a Master of Psychosexual Therapy, Graduate Degrees in Counselling and Public Health, and a Bachelor of Behavioural Science. Along the way, I trained in Schema Therapy, Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Imago and somatic approaches…just to name a few. All of it shaped how I understand the patterns, blocks, and habits that keep people stuck in love.
I’m obsessed with psychoeducation because I want to give people the tools, insights, and perspectives I wish I’d had before I became a therapist. I share these freely on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok—because understanding yourself, your patterns, and your choices shouldn’t be reserved for therapy sessions alone.
These days, I have taken a step back from therapy and focus solely on my individual and group mentorship programs. Together, we uncover what’s been running the show in your dating life, break the patterns holding you back, and step into the kind of self-respect, clarity, and choice that transforms how you show up in love. This work is hands-on, practical, and for those ready to stop settling, stop chasing, and start choosing themselves.
FAQs
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This group program is specifically for those who are done chasing, people-pleasing, and settling for the bare minimum in love. Chosen is a hands-on, science-backed group mentoring program where you get the tools, structure, and support to understand your patterns finally — so you can stop showing up the same way, stop chasing people who aren’t right for you, and start confidently choosing the relationships that truly make sense for your life. All sessions are via Zoom in English.
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This is a one-on-one, transformational approach designed for people ready to step fully into themselves, grow personally, and enhance their relationships. Each session provides a deep, focused space to explore and shift the patterns, habits, beliefs, and emotional blocks that have been holding you back.
Each session is 90-minutes and is held online via Zoom. There is no fixed number of sessions you need to book or engage in. Have one, or more it’s totally guided by you.
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While therapy focuses on healing past wounds, processing trauma, and resolving psychological challenges, this mentorship is forward-focused and growth-oriented. It’s designed to help you understand your patterns, gain clarity, and take intentional action in your life and relationships.
Unlike traditional therapy, which often revolves around exploring past experiences, the mentorship is practical, goal-driven, and transformational, combining self-discovery, somatic work, mindset work, and actionable strategies to create lasting change.
This is specifically for people who have done therapy, understand their patterns but still just cannot seem to shift them. They get it on an intellectual level, but can’t seem to get the change they really want. That was me, and that is why I have created this offering.
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‘All In’ is now available in print, ebook, and audio. To find out where you can get your hands (or ears) on a copy, check out the Penguin Random House website here.
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I am no longer offering therapy. The only way to work with me directly is through my group mentoring program or to book a 1-1 mentoring session.
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Yes. For the group mentoring program, you have the option to pay in full, or to pay in 3 instalments.
I do not offer payment plans for one-off mentoring sessions.
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All services require full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before enrolling in the group mentoring program or purchasing a 1-1 session to ensure it’s the right fit for you.
Please note* I have a 48 hour cancellation policy.