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You love them. You don’t want to leave. But you can’t keep going like this.
1:1 mentoring for people ready to break the patterns keeping them stuck in love.
What Brings You Here?
If you’re here, I’m guessing something I shared on socials made you stop scrolling and think, “Wait… that’s me.”
You’re not new to self-work.
You’ve done therapy. You know your attachment style. You’ve binged Esther Perel and Jillian Turecki’s podcast episodes.
And yet — here you are again.
The same fight. The same distance. The same ache that lives in your chest after another night of disconnection.
You love your partner, but something in the dynamic feels off. You keep looping: the over-functioning, the silence, the resentment, the loneliness inside the relationship.
You’ve tried to fix it, talk about it, understand it — but the patterns just won’t shift.
That’s where I come in. I don’t do quick fixes, scripts, or “communication hacks.” I help you get underneath the cycle — to the unconscious patterns, the relational loops, and the unhealed wounds that keep hijacking your relationship, even when you know better.
This work is confronting, clarifying, and deeply liberating. It’s for the person who’s done all the work and still finds themselves thinking, “Why the hell am I back here again?”
You’re not broken. You’re just stuck in a pattern, likely one that once upon a time actually helped you, but now keeps you stuck — a pattern you can absolutely learn to shift.
With four university degrees and over a decade of clinical and lived experience, I take a no-BS, science-backed approach to breaking patterns in love. I help you see the patterns that have been running the show and give you the tools to finally break them.
✨ Sound familiar? You might say things like…
“We keep having the same argument — different topic, same feeling.”
“I’m always the one raising the issues, wanting to talk and holding everything together.”
“I know they love me, but I don’t feel loved.”
“I shut down when they get close.”
“It’s like I disappear in the relationship. I lose myself.”
“I can’t tell if this is love or survival.”
“I don’t want to end it, but I don’t know what else to do!”
You’re smart. Self-aware. You see the pattern clearly — just not how to stop living it.
This is for anyone who is…
Tired of doing all the emotional labour — the one who fixes, explains, and holds space until you’re empty.
Exhausted by the push-pull — craving closeness but fearing it at the same time.
Sick of shrinking because you feel like your needs are too much.
Done analysing everything and ready for something that actually shifts the dynamic.
Longing for real intimacy — not the kind that disappears the moment things get hard.
At the edge of burnout in love — where you can’t keep giving, guessing, or walking on eggshells.
This work is for the ones who’ve had enough. Enough emotional overdrive. Enough self-abandonment. Enough of the cycles that steal your energy and self-trust.
Who It’s For
You’re in a relationship with someone you love, but it feels stuck — or you’re hanging on by a thread, wondering if it can change.
You can feel the same pattern repeating — the same conflict, the same distance, the same emotional exhaustion.
You don’t want to leave. You don’t want to keep living like this either.
You want a relationship that reflects the person you’ve become — not the patterns you’ve outgrown.
🏳️🌈 All genders, orientations, and relationship structures welcome. I’m Queer, and this work is inclusive, affirming, and safe for all.
A little about me…
…I’m a Therapist-turned-Mentor, Psycho-Sexologist, Behavioural Scientist, and Author based in Sydney. My obsession? What makes love work — and why it so often doesn’t.
After years of clinical practice (and four degrees later), I’ve seen the same truth over and over: People don’t get stuck because they don’t know what to do — they get stuck because their systems keep pulling them back into what’s familiar.
My work blends psychology, attachment theory, neuroscience, somatics, and Internal Family Systems — all grounded in a no-BS, deeply human approach.
I’m not here to fix your relationship.
I’m here to help you change the way you relate.
Clarity: Understand why the same patterns keep repeating — and how to stop feeding them.
Tools: Navigate conflict, triggers, and emotional shutdowns with grounded self-awareness.
Integration: Learn to stay open in love without losing yourself.
Here’s What You’ll Get
We go straight to the root:
What’s actually driving the cycles between you and your partner?
How your nervous system reacts in love — and how to stay grounded instead of reactive.
The unconscious roles you’ve been playing (caretaker, pursuer, fixer, avoider).
What self-betrayal looks like in your relationship — and how to stop doing it.
You’ll leave with clarity, language, and tools to break the cycle — and a way to love that doesn’t cost you your peace.
What We Do Together
The Details
Mentoring with me is a focused, results-driven space to explore and shift what keeps you stuck in love. We tackle the habits, blocks, and unconscious loops that keep showing up—so you can stop overthinking, overgiving, settling for the bare minimum and start showing up in love with confidence, clarity and worth.
We work with your mind, emotions, behaviours, and body to create real, embodied breakthroughs and actionable strategies that stick. Think of it as a fast-track to understanding your patterns, reclaiming your agency, and finally showing up differently.
Details:
Format: One-off 90-minute session
Investment: $333 USD
Approach: Mentoring
Available: Online Worldwide via Zoom
This is for the moments you’re ready to go deep, take meaningful action, and create real change.
Not sure if it’s the right fit for you? Reach out to me directly at hello@lucilleshackleton.com
Book your Session
Ready to get started? Book your mentoring session and then complete the form below.
Mentoring sessions are 90-minutes and cost $333 USD.
Tell Me More…
Complete the form below after you book and pay for your session. Sessions are 90-minutes and cost $333 USD.
You will receive a Zoom link in your booking confirmation. I will then send you a mentoring agreement, which needs to be completed before the session.
When you fill out the form…
Be raw. Be honest. Say the thing you usually hold back. Tell me what’s really going on for you. What you share here will help me prepare for our session together.
What each session involves:
What to expect during your 90-minute mentoring session
Each session is a space to pause, gain clarity, and create movement in your relationship. It’s a chance to look honestly at the patterns that have been running the show—what’s holding you back, what keeps repeating, and what’s ready to shift.
Every session is guided by where you are and what’s alive for you in the moment. While each session is unique, we work through three core areas:
1. Setting the Intention — What Do You Want From The Session?
We start by grounding into your intention. What’s the one thing that, if explored or understood today, would make a real difference in your relationship? What do you most want to walk away with?
This step sets the tone, giving our time focus and direction. You’ll leave this part with:
A clear sense of your goal for the session
Alignment on where to focus your attention
A grounded, intentional start
2. Exploring the Patterns Keeping You Stuck
Next, we slow down and look at the stories, beliefs, and habits that have been quietly shaping your choices in love. We explore the patterns you keep repeating—without judgment, just awareness—so you can start to see what’s actually running the show in your relationship.
Here, you might discover:
The patterns that are keeping you stuck and why you keep engaging in them
Old stories or beliefs influencing your decisions
How your attachment style or coping strategies are showing up
Clarity on what’s yours to keep, and what’s ready to release
3. Refocusing and Moving Forward
With new clarity comes action. In this final part, we gather insights, listen to what feels true, and map out small, practical steps to start showing up differently in your relationship. This is about movement you can actually take, rooted in self-respect, confidence, self-worth and alignment with who you are becoming.
You’ll leave this part with:
Renewed focus and clarity
Practical, grounded next steps
Confidence in your own direction and choices
Mentoring sessions are for those ready to break their patterns and change how they show up in love. For those ready to embody self-respect, self-trust, and self-worth in intimate relationships.
Why Mentoring?
If you’ve tried therapy, coaching, or self-help strategies and still feel stuck in your dating life, relationships, or personal growth, mentoring might be the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for.
Focused. Each session is designed with intention. We start by clarifying what you most want to get out of our time together—your goal, challenge, or desired shift—and we keep our work laser-focused on that. No fluff, no distractions. Just clarity, insight, and action.
Strategic. We dig into the patterns, beliefs, and habits that have been quietly running the show in your dating life and relationships. By understanding what’s really holding you back, we can design strategies that actually work—practical steps that move you toward the love, connection, and self-respect you want.
Embodied & Practical. This isn’t just about thinking differently—it’s about feeling, practising, and showing up differently. We combine reflection, somatic awareness, and practical exercises so that insights translate into action. You leave the session with tools you can use immediately to break old patterns and start stepping into new ways of relating and choosing.
Mentoring is a deep, one-on-one space to explore the “why” behind your patterns—your relational history, unconscious habits, and emotional blocks—and move toward the “how”: actionable, embodied, and real change.
You don’t need to prepare, other than bringing your goal or focus. We’ll start where you are, go deep into what’s really running the show, and finish with a clear roadmap to help you create measurable shifts in your dating life, relationships, and self-expression.
This is integrative, transformational work. It’s practical, real, and it creates real change.
My Approach
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Depth-Oriented
This approach honours the parts of you that operate beneath conscious awareness—the patterns, beliefs, and habits that have quietly been shaping your love life. By exploring your inner world—the stories you tell yourself, the defences you’ve built, and the behaviours that show up in relationships—you begin to see what’s been running the show. Bringing awareness to these hidden layers gives you the power to shift them, creating space to attract people who truly fit your life, build deeper intimacy, and show up in love with authenticity, worth and confidence.
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Goal Oriented
This approach is about getting crystal clear on what you truly want in love and creating relationships that reflect your worth. It’s for those who are done settling, people-pleasing, and repeating patterns that leave them frustrated or heartbroken. Together, we’ll examine your relational habits and patterns: which ones are serving you, and which ones are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn to set boundaries, raise your standards, and embody self-respect, self-trust, and confidence in your love life. Whether in individual sessions or group mentoring, you’ll gain the clarity, tools, and support to stop chasing, start choosing, and finally engage in relationships in a way that matches your life, your values, and your worth.
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Somatic
Your body holds the stories your mind can’t always reach. By tuning into sensations, breath, and tension, we learn how to calm your nervous system, create safety, and release the blocks that keep you repeating old patterns in dating and relationships. This somatic awareness supports you to step out of old relational habits, show up more fully, and experience love in a way that feels embodied, grounded, and safe.
FAQs
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This group program is specifically for those who are done chasing, people-pleasing, and settling for the bare minimum in love. Chosen is a hands-on, science-backed group mentoring program where you get the tools, structure, and support to understand your patterns finally — so you can stop showing up the same way, stop chasing people who aren’t right for you, and start confidently choosing the relationships that truly make sense for your life. All sessions are via Zoom in English.
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This is a one-on-one, transformational approach designed for people ready to step fully into themselves, grow personally, and enhance their relationships. Each session provides a deep, focused space to explore and shift the patterns, habits, beliefs, and emotional blocks that have been holding you back.
Each session is 90-minutes and is held online via Zoom. There is no fixed number of sessions you need to book or engage in. Have one, or more it’s totally guided by you.
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While therapy focuses on healing past wounds, processing trauma, and resolving psychological challenges, this mentorship is forward-focused and growth-oriented. It’s designed to help you understand your patterns, gain clarity, and take intentional action in your life and relationships.
Unlike traditional therapy, which often revolves around exploring past experiences, the mentorship is practical, goal-driven, and transformational, combining self-discovery, somatic work, mindset work, and actionable strategies to create lasting change.
This is specifically for people who have done therapy, understand their patterns but still just cannot seem to shift them. They get it on an intellectual level, but can’t seem to get the change they really want. That was me, and that is why I have created this offering.
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‘All In’ is now available in print, ebook, and audio. To find out where you can get your hands (or ears) on a copy, check out the Penguin Random House website here.
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I am no longer offering therapy. The only way to work with me directly is through my group mentoring program or to book a 1-1 mentoring session.
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Yes. For the group mentoring program, you have the option to pay in full, or to pay in 3 instalments.
I do not offer payment plans for one-off mentoring sessions.
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All services require full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before enrolling in the group mentoring program or purchasing a 1-1 session to ensure it’s the right fit for you.
Please note* I have a 48 hour cancellation policy.
Have Questions?
Not sure if it’s right for you? Reach out to me directly at hello@lucilleshackleton.com
These sessions require full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before booking a session to ensure it’s the right fit for you.