chosen
Break your patterns. Raise your standards. Embody your worth in love.
A 3-month individual mentoring program for people who are ready for real change.
Hi, I’m Lucille…
…and I am a Behavioural Scientist, Psycho-Sexologist and Therapist, turned Mentor. I help people break their relational patterns, raise their standards, and embody self-worth in love.
Let me guess…
You’ve got your life together. You’re smart, self-aware, accomplished — yet when it comes to love, that’s where things still get messy.
You attract the same type: emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or just not ready.
You overgive, overthink, or overstay.
You know better… and yet something keeps pulling you back into the same story.
That’s where this work comes in.
This is not about fixing you. You’re not broken.
This is about breaking patterns, raising standards, and reclaiming your agency in love.
It’s about dating and relating from self-worth — not survival.
Awareness is not enough. This is the place where insight becomes action.
Here, we do the inner work that changes your outer world. We untangle the unconscious patterns that keep you chasing, shrinking, proving, or performing for love — and teach you how to choose differently.
Using relational psychology, neuroscience, attachment science, and behavioural science, you’ll learn how to embody self-respect, self-trust, and self-worth in every relationship you enter.
Chosen is my signature mentoring program, which I offer both individually and as a group. This is self-worth, strategy, and the science of choosing differently. This is where self-respect becomes the baseline, not the breakthrough.
…because I see you, I get you, I was you!
For years, I couldn’t figure out why I kept ending up in the same kinds of relationships. Knowing better… but still doing the same thing.
It wasn’t until I stopped asking “Why do I keep choosing this?” and started asking “How can I change this?” that everything began to shift.
That’s actually how I became a relationship therapist. I didn’t study relationships just to help others — I did it to help myself! I wanted to understand why smart, capable, self-aware people like us get stuck in cycles that don’t serve us, and how to finally break them.
Through studying behavioural science, psychotherapy, relationship therapy, and psychosexual therapy, I learned that patterns aren’t who we are — they’re how we learned to survive. And once we understand them, we can change them.
Today, I’ve stepped away from therapy so I can make a bigger impact. I’ve created an individual and group mentoring program to bring together everything I’ve learned — personally and professionally — to a space where I can help people like you stop repeating old patterns, stop self-abandoning, stop chasing, raise their standards and start choosing love that honours their worth.
Everything I share comes from both sides of the couch — the therapist and the human because I’ve been there… stuck, frustrated, and wondering if real change is even possible.
My work is for those who have already done the work but still feel stuck. You’ve done the therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts — you don’t need more of the same. What you need are the tools, structure, and support to finally change your patterns.
You know you deserve better, you know you should choose better… and yet somehow you keep chasing, settling, or second-guessing yourself. You find yourself attracted to the same type of person, replaying the same scenario — and the worst part? You see it, you know it, and you still do it!
Why I do what I do…
This is legit.
This isn’t another generic downloadable course or advice from some TikTok dating guru (no shade — I actually love that content, but that’s NOT what this is!).
If you want real, science-backed tools from someone who has spent over a decade studying relationships, human behaviour, and sexuality, has four university degrees in this field, and has actually lived and applied this work herself, then this program is for you.
Chosen combines evidence-based strategies, somatic and relational insight, and hands-on mentorship to help you finally understand your patterns, reclaim your boundaries, and make confident choices in love.
It will support you to stop abandoning, to stop obsessing about people who are no good for you and to start honouring yourself and make decisions based on what you actually want, and to confidently walk away from what you don’t.
chosen
3-Month Individual Mentoring Program
What the program includes:
A 3-month deep-dive into the patterns shaping your love life.
✦ 1-1 Mentoring Sessions: Bi-Weekly 2-Hour Mentoring Session (6 total sessions over 3 months)
✦ The Content: A pre-recorded video for every module is sent to you every Friday and is downloadable and yours to keep.
✦ Text Support and Weekly Check-ins: Between sessions, you have the options for both text support and phone check-ins to keep you on track.
Investment: $7,777 USD
Why Investment in This Work:
This program is designed for high-achievers who value exclusivity, privacy, and results. It's for those who have invested time and energy into therapy and reading, and have not got the results they wanted.
This is a 3-month container of transformation, not just education.
The cost reflects the intensive mentorship, access to expertise, and the resources included.
Spaces are strictly limited. Next intake is in Jan 2026.
Apply Now to Claim Your Spot →
This work is for anyone who has done the inner work, but still finds themselves shrinking, chasing, or settling in love.
We explore the deep, often invisible drivers behind relational self-sabotage: the parts of you that equate love with proving, peace with boredom, and vulnerability with risk. Together, we’ll unravel the unconscious contracts you’ve made in love — and rewrite them from sovereignty, not scarcity.
Because change doesn't come from self-awareness alone, it comes from behaving differently, choosing differently and showing up differently.
Together, let’s break your dating patterns, redefine what you accept, expect, and attract in love.
What You Really Want
(Even If You Don’t Say It Out Loud)
This is my guess based on the work I have done with so many people just like you…
You’ve got your life together. Career on point. Friends you love. Your finances are solid. And yet — when it comes to love? Chaos.
You’re tired of looking at your dating life and feeling a disconnect between who you are publicly and who you become when you’re in a relationship. That smart, confident, high-achieving version of you… disappears. And in their place? Overthinking, shrinking, obsessing, or settling.
You’re ready for alignment. You want your love life to finally match the rest of your life — seamless, intentional, and true to who you are.
You want to feel proud of your decisions in love.
No more waking up after a weekend of texting, ghosting, or compromising, thinking, “I can’t believe I let that happen again.” You want clarity and certainty. You want to show up fully, make choices that honour you, and not regret them.
You want to choose instead of chase.
Not because you’re lucky. Not because someone finally notices you.
But because you’ve learned how to date from agency not scarcity; from self-worth, not fear. You’re done shrinking, waiting, or accepting crumbs. You’re ready to step into sovereignty — to lead your love life instead of reacting to it.
You want to break the pattern without breaking yourself.
This isn’t about shaming your past choices. It’s about finally having the tools, insight, and support to do something different. Something bold. Something that actually works.
You want relationships that don’t compromise your autonomy, integrity or self-worth.
Mutual, steady, emotionally available relationships that feel aligned with who you are, not draining you or forcing you to shrink. You’re done sacrificing your identity for connection. You want love life that respects your boundaries, values your time, and honours your worth.
You want science, not guesswork.
You’re intelligent. You’ve read the books, done the therapy, listened to the podcasts. You’re ready for depth, clarity, and evidence-backed tools that actually change the way you show up in relationships.
You want to trust yourself. Your intuition. Your boundaries. Your choices. Your sense of what feels right. Not questioning. Not apologising. Not shrinking.
Ultimately, you want to step fully into your high-standard identity:
The you who doesn’t chase.
Doesn’t self-abandon.
Doesn’t settle for crumbs.
Doesn’t collapse into old wounds.
Doesn’t beg to be chosen — because you have raised your standards and embodied your worth.
And that’s exactly what CHOSEN is here to help you do.
The Transformation
(What You Actually Get Inside CHOSEN)
This isn’t just a course.
This is the moment your love life finally catches up to the rest of your life.
Because the truth is:
You don’t need more information.
You don’t need more “awareness.”
You don’t need more theory on attachment styles.
You need change — real, embodied, identity-level change.
And that’s exactly what CHOSEN delivers.
What you’ll get
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12 Transformational Modules
Each week you’ll receive a video lesson (released on Fridays) that dives into the psychology, neuroscience, and relational dynamics behind your patterns — so you arrive to each session informed and ready to go deeper. -
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6 × 2 Hour Private Mentoring Sessions
Personalised guidance and support to create real shifts in your dating and relational experiences. -
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Powerful Implementation Tools
Each module comes with everything you need to not just understand what’s happening and why, but to create tangible change and to help you actually live what you’re learning.
The Modules
Module 9
Capacity
Learning to tolerate the discomfort of doing things differently
Module 11
Integration
Turning awareness into embodied change
Module 12
Implementation
Taking aligned action that lasts
Module 8
Reality Check
Breaking the fantasy and letting go of denial & emotional projection
Module 7
Boundaries & Standards
Knowing your line and keeping it
Module 6
Ditch the “Pick Me” Energy
Choosing from worth, not fear or scaricty
Module 5
Worthiness
Building self-trust and confidence
Module 10
Growing Pains
Navigating the discomfort of the early stages and what to do when old patterns pop up
Module 2
Your Wounds
Understanding and healing them yourself
Module 1
Your Patterns
Where they come from and how they play out
Module 4
Your Protectors
How the people-pleasing, codependency & coping strategies that once protected you, now betray you
Module 3
The Brain Behind It
The neuroscience, behaviour science and attachment science of why you get stuck
Start Today
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Are you ready?
This isn’t just a program — it’s an identity shift.
Chosen combines evidence-based strategies, somatic and relational insight, and hands-on mentorship to help you:
✔ understand your patterns
✔ raise your standards
✔ stop self-abandoning
✔ stop obsessing over people who cannot meet you
✔ make confident choices that honour your worth
This work will teach you how to walk away from what drains you — and walk toward what aligns with you.
Interested but on the fence?
Book a discovery call with me and let’s chat!
CHOSEN is the 3-month program that helps you transform how you show up in love — from patterns that shrink you to choices that honour your worth.
Are you ready?
The Application
Apply to join the program by completing the application form below, and I will be in touch with you ASAP.
Please note spaces are strictly limited.
Once you submit the form, I will reach out to you via email within 48 hours.
This is not therapy.
This is for people who see their patterns and are ready to finally BREAK them.
For those ready to stop chasing, stop shrinking, stop settling — and start choosing from agency, standards, clarity, and self-worth.
Are you ready?
Let’s do this together!
This program requires full commitment. For that reason, all sales are final and non-refundable.
I encourage you to read the terms and conditions HERE before enrolling to ensure it’s the right fit for you.